|do not let people to decide your pleasures and pains..!|
If your life is organized around these obligations, you must surely feel a huge weight on your shoulders and above all you probably find that life is very demanding. Understand the influence of others can affect all areas of your life. If you let the influence of others affect your choices and decisions, it is almost certain that in most cases you will not act according to your values, your desires and your aspirations.
The negative effects to please everyone is devastating to your self-esteem, devastating to the achievement of your personal projects, your personal development and the fulfillment of your dreams. If you prevent yourself to achieve your dreams because of public opinion and influence of others, what motivates you to get up each morning?
I do not mean to dismiss anything other say, I'm proposing to simply make your choice based on your beliefs, your values, your desires, your abilities and your dreams. When you've made your choice, there will certainly be people who will disagree with your choices and that's normal. All you have to do is to calmly explain why you do it and if he does not respect your choices and decisions is no longer your problem, anyway how can he stop you since you're the person who controls your decisions.
Whatever you do in life, there is always someone to tell you that you have not made the right choice or that your ideas are inadequate. Listen to your heart and your mind and live life according to you, while respecting others. It is not always easy for others to accept the fact that you live according to your choice and not based on what they want you to do or to be. At some point it will eventually let go and accept your way of life. The time always ends by overcoming the most stubborn.
Do not let people to decide your pleasures and pains..! Finding yourself is a time of harmony because you develop that philosophy...that will carry you throughout the rest of your life. When you love yourself and who you are, you will savor and enjoy both life's pain and pleasures.